How are your new year’s resolutions going? Are you staying strong, or have you already ditched most? If it’s the first, congrats; but more people, I’m sure, fall into the second option, and I’d like to help you get back on track.
I stopped doing hard resolutions a while back, and now just declare my intentions for things I wish to accomplish or get better at, and it has worked much better. Why, how?!
Be kind to yourself and forgive
Yes, be kind, and FORGIVE. You will mess up and that’s ok, as long as you’re quick to get back on track. We must let go of this idea of perfect of nothing for everything, so if you ate chocolate cake in the middle of the day/week, that’s fine, just eat a healthy meal afterwards. It’s scientifically proven impossible to be perfect all the time (trust me, I’ve tried to), so commit to improving your best version every day.
Don’t try to become someone else overnight
You said on new year’s eve that this year you’d work out every day, remove your makeup overnight, eat only healthy things, run 5K every morning, meditate half an hour, become and entrepreneur, master old painting… etc… etc… etc… And somehow you expected to wake up ALREADY being this person on January 1st? It’s doesn’t work like that and you’re probably overwhelmed by the sheer amount you want to accomplish. This is not to say you shouldn’t aim high, but be realistic, it won’t magically happen overnight and this is no reason for you to give up and feel like a failure.
Make changes in increments
Like I said before, little by little, otherwise you’re sitting yourself up for failure. Start running 15 minutes, instead of aiming for 5K right away. Pick healthier ingredients, instead of aiming to eat kale 100% of the time. Practice whatever skill you want to master being aware that mastery takes TIME.
Keep at it!
Don’t give up after the first time you didn’t wake up early enough to run. Forgive yourself and DO IT the next day. You missed a painting class? No problem, give your best on the next session. You get the idea.
In short, keep the faith, don’t give up, and don’t hold yourself to perfection, specially when you’re just starting out.
Now, tell me, what are the habits and goals you’re working on this year?